Veering off the Vancouver-topic path and onto a more personal note this is simply to express my own sentiments and feelings on a topic.
I recently received a very critical comment from a fellow blogger in relation to a photo I posted within an entry on my blog (the iPhone post) asking why I would reduce myself to “bimbo” standards by posting the photos that I do on my site. This prompted me to share the following.
Flaunt ’em if you got ’em.
If you’re familiar with America’s Next Top Model you’ll know that it’s the more “buxom” contestants that have to worry about the fine line between pretty and sleazy or fashion and Maxim. More slender and less endowed women can tastefully get away with posting sensual photos, even on their blogs, because if anything it’s beautiful and their own expression. However, when someone with a bigger cup size were to post the very same photos, in the very same manner they could be construed as borderline pornographic.
Sometimes I am made to feel bad about my chest, in many ways. This is not a pity-party by any means, I’m simply enlightening those on the topic of “larger chested women don’t have it all” (and there are certainly many others that have much more than I do). There’s the shirts that don’t fit, the mis-matching bathing suits or underwear sets, the paying $5 more for your size of bra compared to others at Victoria’s Secret. It ain’t all fun and games.
Intelligent women are not allowed to be sexual.
I’ll specify a little – if a smart and fully “geek-cred” approved woman who has worked, designed and coded four websites over the last few years, blogged and podcasted for four years, gone to university with honors and has been working in the tech industry for eight years – why can she not feel sexy sometimes? Does it immediately discredit everything she’s worked so hard to build simply because she has cleavage showing? Does it bring down her IQ?
What about simply being playful? Tongue in cheek? The Humor? And what about an artistic expression? It’s not always about seeking attention and attraction – and there’s also something to be said about always being “one of the boys”.
If the Wired.com “sexy geek” poll says anything it’s that there are a ton of attractive women out there who have focused on their careers, research, or their own craft in their own intelligent ways – and they just also happen to be pleasing to the eye.
When a female wants to post photos on her blog amidst any kind of content that she worked hard to create who is to say what she can and cannot post?
Are we writing simply for a specific audience? Will people judge me now that I mentioned Top Model instead of the many documentaries I would rather be watching?
When and how should we censor ourselves to suit our traffic’s needs and so that they don’t immediate look at us in a different less-worthy light?